Tuesday, 22 March 2011
Why climbing into the trench doesn't work
I used to think that by living small - whether financially, emotionally, or mentally - I was somehow 'in solidarity' with friends or family members who were having a tough time. I would go down into the trenches of their suffering with them.
How wrong I was. It has taken me years to learn that feeling depressed will never help my friend who is feeling depressed. It's far more important - and of infinitely greater service - to feel as good as I can so that I can be of genuine service to a friend who is in need, rather than recreate their pain so that we both wallow in that pain.
The twist is this: if I'm not living small because I think that comforts those around me, I have to live for myself. And who do I choose to be? It's a question I'm revisiting and, as we can all reinvent who we are so that we embody our highest potential, it is a question that is always relevant.